Hey there! It’s Karin, and today I want to talk about something that’s been a game-changer for me: speaking my truth. This journey has been a rollercoaster, but I’ve learned so much about myself along the way. Let’s dive in!
The People-Pleasing Trap
For years, I was caught in a trap. I’d say things just to make others happy, even if it didn’t feel right to me. Sound familiar? Maybe you’ve been there too.
I remember countless times when someone would ask for my opinion, and I’d give the answer I thought they wanted to hear. Sure, they’d walk away happy, but I’d be left feeling… empty.
The Cost of Not Speaking Up
Here’s the thing: every time we don’t speak our truth, we lose a little piece of ourselves. It’s like we’re wearing a mask, trying to be someone we’re not. And let me tell you, that mask gets heavy after a while.
The Turning Point: Covid-19 and Self-Discovery
Everything changed for me during the Covid-19 pandemic. Suddenly, I had time to sit with myself and really think about who I was and what I wanted.
I started listening to spiritual teachers, diving into self-help books, and most importantly, I began to study myself. Yes, you heard that right – I became my own subject of study!
The Power of Self-Study
Here’s a question for you: Do you know yourself as well as you know your favorite celebrity or TV show character? If not, it’s time to start studying YOU.
I realized I knew more about other people’s lives than my own. Crazy, right? But when I started to really look inward, everything changed.
Finding My Voice: The First Steps
The first time I spoke my truth without worrying about pleasing others, it felt… scary. But also, incredibly freeing.
I remember telling someone, “If you want me to live your life, buy me the same house, car, and give me the same bank account as you. Otherwise, I’m living my life my way.”
Was it uncomfortable? Absolutely. Did some people get upset? You bet. But for the first time, I felt truly aligned with myself.
The Aftermath of Truth
Here’s what I learned: When you start speaking your truth, some people might walk away. But the right people will stay.
Yes, I lost some “friends.” But the connections I’ve made since then? They’re deeper and more authentic than ever before.
Overcoming the Fear of Judgment
One of the biggest hurdles in speaking your truth is the fear of judgment. We worry:
- What will people think?
- Will they still like me?
- Will I end up alone?
Let me tell you something: these fears are normal, but they don’t have to control you.
A New Perspective on Judgment
Here’s a mindset shift that helped me: If someone judges you for being authentic, that’s on them, not you. You’re not responsible for their reactions to your truth.
The Spiritual Journey: Discovering My True Identity
As I dove deeper into self-discovery, I had a profound realization: I am a spiritual being, created in the image of God. This isn’t about religion – it’s about recognizing our inherent worth and power.
When you truly understand who you are, external validation becomes less important. You start to trust yourself more than anyone else’s opinion of you.
The Power of “I Am”
I started using powerful “I Am” statements daily:
- I am confident
- I am worthy
- I am capable
These aren’t just words – they’re declarations of truth that reshape your reality.
Living Your Truth: Practical Steps
Ready to start living your truth? Here are some steps to get you started:
- Self-reflection: Take time each day to check in with yourself. What do you really think and feel?
- Start small: You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Start by speaking your truth in low-stakes situations.
- Set boundaries: It’s okay to say no to things that don’t align with your values.
- Surround yourself with supportive people: Find friends who appreciate the real you.
- Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself as you learn and grow.
The Results: A Life of Authenticity
Since I’ve started speaking my truth, my life has transformed. I feel more confident, more at peace, and more aligned with my purpose.
Yes, there are still challenges. But now, I face them as my authentic self, not as someone I think others want me to be.
A New Level of Connection
The relationships I have now are deeper and more meaningful. When you’re real with others, you invite them to be real with you. It’s beautiful.
Your Turn: Embrace Your Truth
So, here’s my challenge to you: Start speaking your truth today. It might be scary at first, but I promise, it’s worth it.
Remember:
- You are worthy of being heard
- Your opinions matter
- You have unique gifts to share with the world
Don’t wait years like I did. Start now. Your future self will thank you.
A Final Thought
Speaking your truth isn’t about being harsh or unkind. It’s about being authentic, respectful, and true to yourself. It’s about living a life that’s aligned with your values and beliefs.
Are you ready to start this journey? I’d love to hear about it! Share your experiences or questions in the comments below. Let’s support each other in living our most authentic lives.
Remember, you are powerful beyond measure. It’s time to let your true self shine!